Parenting Styles

There are goups that form in your life. At one time you were in a high school group. Then college. Then newlyweds. Once you ahve kids all those newlywed friends either start joining you, or you make other friends and slowly shift into another group of young moms. That's where I find myself right now.
One reason you move into a new group is you start talking about what is going on in your life. As a young mom, (or mom of young kids), you talk with other moms about the way to parent your child. For a newborn it's different than a toddler.
For example Carter gets timeouts, talked to, knows and understands me, and helps make meals, bedtime and naps are very different for him than his brother Chase.
Chase on the other hand is a newborn, and there are many different ways to parent a newborn:

Attachement Parenting
Baby Wise
Cry it Out
Soothe
Nothing
Swaddel not to Swaddel
Paci or thumb
In your bed, in your room, or get that kid out of here and in their own room
rock or not to rock
hold or let play
etc.

I have come to learn (mostly with haveing Carter, my first) that parentling styles of a newborn fall into the controvercial categories much like religion and politics. There are just some things that you don't talk about with others if you don't want to be told you're wrong, or you shouln't do that. I know there are times.....(I am going to say it, and I know people might think ill of me, but I don't care anymore.) .....I have slept with Carter in our bed. Do I share a bed all the time. NO. Is that my parenting style, No. Did it ruin my marriage, NO!!!!! But if you do it. Good for you!!!!!!! If you don't think people should, that's okay too. But this is one thing you don't bring up with friends I have learned.
In the end I was summing it up, the debates are only about:
where your baby sleeps
how he sleeps
what gets him to sleep
when he eats
how much he eats
what you feed him.
Are these really issues that are that big of a deal..... NO!
By the age of 1, most every kids is on a similar schedule, eats people food, and goes down for bed and naps just fine. (So it doesn't matter how a parents gets there.)

If you really want my opinion:

Do what is the least stressful for your personality, what give you and your family the most sleep, and feels the mos comfortable. Who cares what your friends do. (I am a born again Christian, and to me, all I think is important is that my kids learn about Jesus through me and others.) Who cares where they sleep, what they eats, how they fall asleep etc.

P.S.
I love the swing, I hate pacifiers, my kids will always sleep in my room for the first few months, I will do everything I can to breastfeed them, I swaddel them, I hold them while they sleep sometimes, I rock them, I sing to them, I use diapers that will inhabbit the planet forever, etc. Do I appologize for any of this. NO! Neither should you. You do what you do. It's your kids.
Just Love on 'em!

Thanks